by Dawn Billings, founder of RelationshipHelp.com
Children with Warm Green Personality Tendencies:
Children with strong green personality tendencies often appear older than their age. They appear to be more mature in their emotions. They seem to understand people at a deeper level than most. They are often called names like ‘sage’, ‘old soul’, ‘enlightened’.
They have a keen sense of “big picture” needs. These children are appreciative, respectful and helpful. They are usually honoring and devoted. Their teachers often consider them “a sheer delight” to teach. They are hungry for knowledge and self-responsible when it comes to homework like the blue and purple personality types, but without the anxious need for perfection.
Children with strong green personality tendencies can often be found mentoring others in their class. Competition is not nearly as important to them as cooperation and collaboration. They end up in leadership positions, not because they seek control, but usually because others seek them out because of their values, integrity and willingness to take up a cause.
Other children can make fun of them. Their unusually mature outlooks can cause them to be perceived as anything but “cool” to other children. Parents love them and love their children being friends with them because they feel they are good influences.
One of their greatest struggles is when they feel that something is not fair. This causes them to want to fight for ‘right’. Not to be right, but FOR right.
How to Effectively Parent a Child with warm Green Personality Tendencies:
Be sincere, honest and supportive in your communication with them. Talk about big ideals with them. They love stories of hope and possibility.
Allow them to be involved with volunteer projects. They love feeling like they are making a difference in the world.
Don’t push them. They don’t need to be pushed. If anything attempt to aid them in their journey toward understanding.
A great resource for helping children learn and understand emotional intelligence are the many books by Daniel Goleman that focus on Emotional Intelligence and my book, Entitled to Fail, Endowed to Succeed: America’s Journey Back to Greatness, and What Have You Got to Give, written by my son Corbin when he was thirteen. Both of which you can order off my website www.DawnBillings.com
Another great recommendation: Read Dr. Foster Cline and Jim Fay’s Parenting With Love and Logic books, and I highly recommend that you order Greatness and Children: Learn the Rules (simply click links to order and download books)
Reward them for their gentle spirits, their honoring natures. Allow them to teach you with their wisdom even though they are children, they are wise.
Be loving, respectful, empathetic, and fair, when disciplining them. Make sure that the discipline accurately fits the behavior for which they are being punished. They will comfort you while you are doing it because they understand that love is your motivation for disciplining them.
You can fall apart and get very emotional when you are attempting to communicate your feelings with these children. They are capable of sitting quietly next to you as they simply allow you the privilege of feeling as deeply as you need to feel. Feelings do not frighten them. Cruelty confuses and frightens them, but not emotions.
Be your word. Do what you promise to do.
Follow through will every promised disciplinary action because it means that you are in integrity with your word and they will respect and admire this about you.
Be gentle and loving. It feeds their hearts and minds.
Continue to admire the honest, considerate nature of your green child. Support them emotionally and lovingly.
Set clear respectful boundaries about what behaviors you will continue to love, respect and reward, and those you will not.
Dawn Billings first book Greatness and Children: Learn the Rules shares how children choose to live the greatness within them. Dawn is the inventor of the patented parenting tool for toddlers called Capables. Dawn is the author of the Primary Colors Relationship Personality Tests and Insight Tools licensed and used widely by relationship experts around the nation. Dawn is the executive director of the Relationship Help Resort in Arizona where she hosts private couples therapy retreats to help strengthen and heal broken relationships. Dawn is also the founder of RelationshipHelp.com and creator of the comprehensive ONLINE relationship programs called RelationshipHelpAtHome.com