by Dawn Billings, founder of RelationshipHelp.com
Children with Warm Yellow Personality Tendencies: Children with strong yellow personality tendencies follow the rules and behave because they want to please. They love their teachers, admire their kindness, and want to please them. They don’t like to fight and work to keep everyone feeling important and happy.
They respect and fear authority and are usually comfortable in an academic setting where it is clear what is necessary to please those in charge. Children with strong yellow personality tendencies do not like conflict. Conflict causes them to feel anxious and unsettled because they long for harmony, inclusion and pleasing above all else. They are easy children to teach if their environment is safe and accepting. They flourish with encouragement rather than competition. They want others to like them.
They react with great sensitivity to discordance or rejection. They respond best to parents and teachers who treat them with warmth and kindness. They wear their feelings on their shoulders and are not good at hiding how they feel. In fact, they are usually controlled by their feelings and make decisions with their hearts. This can become a very unhealthy habit and cause them distress in their relationships as they grow up. Do all you can to help them learn to manage their feelings while they are young and save them enormous heartbreak later in life.
Even as children, if they have a special friend they love them very deeply and want to spend time with them. They are incredibly loyal, loving, caring and share easily with other children. If they see a child sitting alone, they will go over and attempt to include them. They simply love caring for and serving others.
How to Effectively Parent a Child with Warm Yellow Personality Tendencies
Be sincere and supportive in your communication with them. Make a safe place for them to share what they are afraid to share with anyone.
Don’t yell. They are very sensitive and discordance and yelling are very upsetting to them. Don’t hit or frighten them.
Reward them for their pleasing tendencies but do not reward them when they are passive-aggressive and resort to guilt to attempt to get their needs met. Instead, attempt to encourage them to learn to speak up for themselves in loving respectful ways. Teach them skills that will help them get their needs met in more honest, direct ways.
Consider getting my book Greatness and Children: Learn the Rules to help your young yellow learn that their personal dreams are equally as important as the dreams they want to encourage in others.
Another great recommendation: Read Dr. Foster Cline and Jim Fay’s Parenting With Love and Logic books, and I highly recommend that you also order Entitled to Fail, Endowed to Succeed: America’s Journey Back to Greatness by calling 918-605-1492.
Be empathetic, fair, and respectful when disciplining them. Make sure that the discipline accurately fits the behavior for which they are being punished. They will usually punish themselves before you can even get to a punishment.
Encourage them to resist falling completely apart and getting very emotional when you are attempting to communicate with them. They like green personality type children, are not afraid of emotions but they can get so involved with their emotions that they forget how to use their heads. They can be highly sensitive and emotional children.
Remain firm, but loving and warm. Yellow personality type children, like blue personality type children depend greatly on your consistency. Have your own identity, and support them in developing theirs. This is going to be most critical for a yellow personality type child because their tendency is to give up theirs in order to be accepted.
Follow through will every promised disciplinary action with loving consistency. Be your word. Do what you promise to do.
Continue to admire the sweet, loving nature of your yellow child, without allowing them to become victims without the courage to speak up when necessary. Don’t baby them. Teach them that their ability to love and serve requires great strength.
Set clear respectful boundaries about what behaviors you will continue to love, respect and reward, and those you will not. Remember, these children want to please you.
Dawn Billings is the inventor of the patented parenting tool for toddlers called Capables. Dawn is also the author and architect of the Primary Colors Relationship Personality Tests and Insight Tools licensed and used widely by relationship experts around the nation. Dawn is the founder of RelationshipHelp.com and creator of the comprehensive ONLINE RelationshipHelpAtHome.com Dawn is the executive director of the RelationshipHelpResort.com in Arizona where she hosts private couples therapy retreats to help strengthen and heal broken relationships.