Our Blind Spots Endanger Relationships

Updated: Mar 31

by Dawn L. Billings, founder of RelationshipHelp.com

There are people who will tell you that what you don't know, won't hurt you but I strongly disagree. It is exactly those things that we are blind to in ourselves that have the potential to spill out and poison relationships that mean so very much to us.


With all of the gifts that God gives us, one of the greatest of these gifts is the gift of insight. It is natural to be blind to certain areas and negative personality tendencies. We all are. These negative or destructive tendencies have either become habits so they operate on autopilot, or we have somehow justified these thoughts, actions and behaviors along our path of life. We don't see where we hurt others feelings, or use others for our own benefit. But they do.

As human beings we have a tendency to ever so clearly see the weaknesses and short comings of others. They annoy us and we want to point them out and shame them for these hurtful behaviors. We magnify, highlight and focus on what we see as others blind spots, as we prefer to stay blind to our own. But what is most important is that we challenge ourselves to become keenly aware of our own blind spots because they are the only blind spots that we can change or alter once we see them in ourselves. It is natural to want others to change the things their thoughts, behaviors or feelings that annoy us. Sadly, it is less natural for us to take responsibility for changing our own.


This problem is addressed in scriptures. "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? Matthew 7:3


We are cautioned to first take the plank from our own eyes before we focus on the specks in the eyes of others. How are you doing with your plank today?


Relationship and personality expert Dawn Billings is the author of over 15 books and hundreds of articles. Dawn is the author and architect of the new RelationshipHelp.com programs which includes the comprehensive ONLINE course Relationship Help At Home. This 26-week course is designed to only take five to ten minutes a day and is easy to access from your computer, tablet or phone. Now you can bring Dawn's 45 plus years of experience and expertise into the comfort of your own home, and for less than two private sessions with Dawn, you can gain insight and understanding into what makes and what breaks relationships, as well as, personality insights into yourself and your partner.


Dawn is also the Executive Director of the RelationshipHelpResort.com and the author of the Primary Colors Relationship Personality Tests and Insight Tools.