Updated: Jun 20
It turns out, that if you were already struggling in your relationship, your relationship may have become even more taxing as you were locked down in a confined space with your scared or agitated partner. Couples, locked down terrified and feeling out of control, may have been forced to view their partners in ways they had never seen them before. Sadly and unfortunately, many did not like what they saw.
Many people with relationship problems and difficulties prior to the pandemic found that their relationship struggles loomed larger. When locked down, it became harder to find personal breathing room, to step away even for a while. In the midst of the lock down it was more difficult to seek out relationship resources and advice, leaving people wanting to develop an exit strategy. That was especially true for any unfortunate people who found themselves in situations involving domestic violence. More stress, more fear, more tension, less room to breathe, you get the picture. The lockdown only added to the outbursts and mean tempers. Research shows that if you didn’t feel like your significant other was there for you, you didn’t feel as secure or able to regulate negative emotions.
It was a difficult and challenging time for many couples. That is why relationship and personality expert Dawn Billings, Executive Director of the Relationship Help Resort in Arizona, took the locked down time to put the finishing touches on her Relationship Help at Home program, created specifically for people needing relationship resources and a way to gain a deeper understanding of themselves and their partners. Billings has over 40 years of relationship and personality expertise and counseling experience helping couples find the information they need to heal, strengthen and build their relationships.
As people live so much more of their lives learning, and finding answers online, Billings decided it was time to create couple’s therapy and relationship training in a program that was easy to access and understand. Her 26 week relationship course only takes 5 minutes a day, but she discovered that when locked down, couples had more time to invest to learn about themselves and their partners. Here is an example of an article you might really enjoy: 12 ways to create lasting love. Along with the 26 week relationship course, Billings adds her relationship personality insight tests and tools. You not only easily take six personality tests online or on your phone, but she provides a personality training so that you can truly understand who you are and why you do and say the things you do and say, but you can also learn to view the world through the lenses of your partner. This series of tests and training alone transforms lives. But then she continues to add the six levels of communication, to help you better recognize if you and your partner are communicating on the same level or different levels. You guessed it, when you can meet your partner on the same level, your conversations are much more pleasant, effective and successful.
Balzarini R, Muise A, Zoppolat G, et al. Love in the time of Covid: Perceived partner responsiveness buffers people from lower relationship quality associated with Covid-related stressors. PsyArXiv. 2020. doi:10.31234/osf.io/e3fh4
Dawn is the architect of the Primary Colors Personality Tests and Insight tools, (the relationship personality tests) created specifically to help build and strengthen relationships, as well as, the Relationship Help at Home relationship course that allows people to find the answers and information they need about how to strengthen and heal their relationships in the comfort of their own home.