We are What We Think

Updated: Apr 14

by Dawn Billings, founder of RelationshipHelp.com

You can change your mind, and with it, you can change your world. Choose a new relationship story, one that empowers your dreams and desires

and create a life that brings magic and excitement to your soul.

You change your life, when you change your mind. Dawn Billings


What and how we think, the thoughts that fill our minds dramatically impact our minds and our relationships. We are creators and creation begins with envisioning and thinking about something. It doesn't matter if these thoughts are positive or negative. Your subconscious doesn't know the difference. It obediently does all it can to bring any thought you feel passionately about into existence.

We are what we repeatedly think. We must think love, think kindness and think understanding in order to attain them. This skill is called thought management and out of all the things we can control in life, our thoughts are truly the only things over which we have full control. And yet, most people attempt to control almost everything else BUT their thoughts.

It is time to examine and deeply consider what you think, and decide if the thoughts you are allowing to fill your head are in line with the ultimate results you desire in your life and in your relationship. Do you find yourself lost in hopeless, unhappy, frustrated thoughts about your relationship? It is natural for human being to do so, but there is a cost. What we think about comes about. I know, you have heard it all before, but your thoughts really do create what you focus on, so if you are focused on how broken your relationship is or feels, that is what you are giving your energy to.


You cannot attain connection while thinking and felling disconnection. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. To change your circumstances, you must start by changing your internal beliefs, attitudes and emotions. No question this is hard to do. If we listen only to our feelings, we will be up one moment and down the next two. That is why you must carefully chose what you will allow to occupy your mind. Remember and think on every good moment you have enjoyed with your partner. Think of ways to be more engaged and less enraged. Think of how you want love to feel in your heart and in your home. You will be simply amazed that when you change your thoughts, your change your world around you, yes, even your relationship.


Remember Philippians 4:8 - Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.


Dawn Billings is the author of over 15 books and is the founder of RelationshipHelp.com and the creator of RelationshipHelpAtHome.com the comprehensive ONLINE relationship help program.


Dawn is also the author and architect of the Primary Colors Relationship Personality Tests and Insight Tools and inventor of the patented parenting tool for toddlers called CAPABLES.

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