by Dawn Billings, founder of RelationshipHelp.com and Primary Colors Personality
Ever wondered which of the six Primary Colors Relationship Personality tendencies are most and least courteous? Well, just in case we have listed and explained them for you.
Courtesy is defined as the showing of politeness in one's attitude and behavior toward others. Courtesy (from the word courteis, from the 12th century) is gentle politeness and courtly manners. In the Middle Ages in Europe, the behaviour expected of the nobility was compiled in courtesy books. Why is this relevant to today's society? Well, courtesy books, or at least the training within them might help us deal with one another more respectfully and compassionately and boy do we need that these days.
We hope our list below will help you better understand yourself and those around you.
1. YELLOW
In their centers, people with yellow color personality tendencies can be recognized by their big hearts, kindness to others and dedication to serving. They are sensitive to the feelings of others. They basically measure their lives in love. Because they are naturally compassionate and caring people with yellow color personality tendencies are usually very courteous, and great listeners. If you have ever wanted to be treated like a royal guest this is where you will continually experience being served like royalty. Much of their self-worth is tied to their ability to care for and serve others.
But people with yellow color personality tendencies can be courteous and giving, to their own detriment. In their attempts to avoid conflict at all costs, they will often submit to the demands and needs of others, politely of course, which can leave them feeling that their desire to serve and care sets them up to be taken advantage of.
In their extremes, people with yellow color personality tendencies can be extremely needy, whiny, overly sensitive and passive aggressive. Although they will do all they can to remain courteous on the outside, on the inside they are seething and resentful. This makes them and everyone around them unhappy.
2. GREEN
In their centers, people with green color personality tendencies are creative, and enlivened by nature. They appreciate beauty in their surroundings, and strive to create beauty within their relationships. Thanks to their strong intuition they can sense other people’s emotions, and are usually very courteous and sensitive. In their centers, people with green color personality tendencies are the most honoring, respectful and tolerant of the six color tendencies. They are dedicated to behaving in fair and respectful ways. They are guided by a strong moral compass so they are careful how they approach difficult topics.
But people with green color personality tendencies lose their courteous demeanor when they move into their extremes because they feel their values are being challenged. In these situations, they react strongly and will fiercely defend their right to an opinion.
In their extremes, people with green color personality tendencies do a 180. They throw their ability to be tolerant, courteous and respectful to the wind and can become radicalized extremist who have NO tolerance for any dogma, political party, or cause that is in opposition to their own.
3. ORANGE
In their centers, people with orange color personality tendencies are known for their fun, optimistic and upbeat charm. Talkative and a bit self-absorbed, people with orange color personality tendencies aren’t always the most courteous of the six color personality tendencies. They are usually easy going and adaptable. Criticism just bounces off them like water off a duck's back. They are rarely impolite deliberately. At the top of the list of priorities is making sure they and everyone around them are having a good time. This fun-loving personality loves surrounding themselves with positivity and enthusiasm.
Or their courtesy might slip is when they get bored. Then you might find yourself replaced as they go in search of a new source of entertainment. Okay, that might not be so courteous! But you’ll forgive their impoliteness because you’ll be carried away by their playful, funny and infectious personality tendencies.
In their extremes, people with orange color personality tendencies have a tendency to talk about themselves a lot and they’re not great listeners. They also have a natural stubbornness where they can come across as sarcastic and have a biting wit, especially if you try tell them what to do and when to do it.
4. RED
In their centers, what drives people with red color personality tendencies is their sense of honor, duty and determination. They are strength oriented people who are not afraid of conflict. They are committed to, and uphold their responsibilities. People with red color personality tendencies are not afraid to get straight to the point. They value directness in their communication and this can sometimes come off as discourteous or impolite. However they value and admire respect, which is why they are listed fourth on our list of most courteous personality tendencies.
Of all the personality types, people with red color personality tendencies are arguably the ones who care least about other people’s opinions of them. They have no desire to sugarcoat things or care what others think of them. They are decisive, assertive and blunt. They would much rather be respected than liked. Although people with red color personality tendencies have a control oriented and dominate nature, they often also have charisma and determination, which helps their leadership abilities win people over regardless of how impolite they might seem. But notice I have been referring to centered red color tendencies.
In their extremes, people with red color personality tendencies are anything but courteous. Extreme red personality tendencies are inflexible, narcissistic and tactless which makes working with people in their red extreme tendencies extremely difficult to work with and to love. They can come off as bullies, who live out of a ‘My way or the highway’ mentality that has no humility or compassion for anyone who disagrees with them. So let’s just say, extreme red color personality tendencies can be extremely discourteous.
5. BLUE
In their centers, people with blue color personality tendencies can have an air of superiority. They have a strong belief in their own intellect and a high level of self-confidence in their abilities to see and solve problems. When you pair that with their low emotional EQ (emotional intelligence), you get a personality that often rubs people the wrong way. Though they don’t mean to be impolite or discourteous, but people with blue color personality tendencies can come across as know-it-alls. Well, in their defense, people with blue color personality tendencies are usually quite bright, if not geniuses. They are meticulous and detail-oriented.
People with blue color personality tendencies hold the importance of their core values of integrity and honesty in almost as high esteem as they hold their high as their IQ's. At the same time, their logical, Spock-like ‘tell it like it is’ personality tendencies mean that sometimes they can be honest to a fault, and not recognize that they can hurt people’s feelings by telling them the truth, which of course is 'their' truth. They don't like change and are not that courteous with their resistance to it.
In their extremes, because they are one of the most logic-based personality tendencies, people with blue color personality tendencies can be almost completely blind to the needs of others. They are usually internal processors who can easily be completely absorbed in their own imaginations, appearing to really not care what people around them are thinking and feeling. They tend to be insensitive and hyper critical of other people and this means they’re not always courteous or fun to be around.
6. PURPLE
In their centers, people with purple color personality tendencies are known for being organized, adaptable and super practical. They are great managers who rule with common sense. They love rules and expect people to work and play by them. They value their effectiveness and efficiency which means that they can value projects and procedures over people. While this has a perfectly practical and reasonable motive, their behaviors and attitudes can come across as rude and discourteous.
People with purple color personality tendencies have a huge number of strengths, but courtesy might not be one of them! Because people with purple color personality tendencies prize efficiency, dedication, competence and follow through above all else, they don’t have the greatest respect and tolerance for people who are tossed around by their feelings. What this translates to is a tendency to be a workaholic who can come across as focused on getting something done, no matter how the people might feel about doing it.
In their extremes, people with purple color personality tendencies can come off as narrow-minded and narrowly focus. They can judge others by efficiency and effectiveness of what they do and place little value on the kindness, open-mindedness, intelligence or other people’s ability to encourage and listen to one another. They believe you have two ears and one mouth for a reason, “Shut up and listen.” People with purple color personality tendencies usually draw their values from the strength side of the personality color wheel. Which means that people who draw their values from the warmth side of the personality color wheel and admire courtesy and kindness can struggle mightily with the ‘leave your feelings at the door’ philosophy of extreme purple tendencies.
Would you like to learn more about your personal and professional color blends? It is easy and fun. Just visit: www.PrimaryColorsPersonality.com and watch the video to learn more.
Personality and relationship expert Dawn Billings is the founder of RelationshipHelp.com and created the comprehensive ONLINE relationship programs RelationshipHelpAtHome.com Dawn is the executive director for the RelationshipHelpResort.com we she host private couple's retreats to help couples heal and strengthen their relationships.